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Hey guys, Jayson here again. I’m writing this “Your Marriage Savior Review” of Michael Cross even when I haven’t yet completed my review on Save the Marriage System of Lee Baucom. Sorry about that for those of you who are reading my daily book chapter reviews. I just can’t hold this review any longer because I feel so excited to share with you what I believe is the most straight forward, sensible, no BS marriage self help book I’ve ever read.
As you have already known, unlike other review blogs out there, I just don’t copy and paste whatever I can find from the book’s website sales page! Reading other people’s review articles with meticulous eyes will show you that they didn’t bought the book themselves. All they are doing is trying to promote the book maybe just to have a commission. View my checklist in detecting false reviews here.
I believe that giving false reviews is like giving false witness which is against God’s law. In any case it is UNETHICAL.
In this website, what you will find here are my own insights and evaluation of marriage self help books. Note, marriage self help bookS. Not just one book unlike other review blogs that are just trying to promote a book.
Check out the Q&A section below wherein I share what I have learned from Michael Cross’ “Your Marriage Savior” course by answering real people’s marital problems in “Yahoo Answers”.
So let’s get it on!
Your Marriage Savior course was created by Michael Cross who has been helping guys in their relationship problems for the past 10 years. Unlike Dr. Lee Baucom, Michael is not your typical marriage counselor. He was not “educated” on the school of thought of therapy and marriage counselling, but on attraction, seduction and being a real man. So his methods and advice are NOT your usual academic and untested methods that are often mediocre in their effectiveness.
Even Dr. Lee Baucom who was once a traditional marriage counselor himself admits that marriage counselling has a very low success rate. That is why Dr. Lee “improved” his methods but still I feel they have a taste of a marriage counselling while I was reviewing his system. Very academic. Better than ordinary marriage counselling but I can say that his methods are more of a “supplemental” or “nice to have” if compared to Michael Cross’ Your Marriage Savior course. So if you found my review of Lee Baucom’s Save The Marriage good, then be ready for a more powerful course! Just don’t be confused with the two book titles
Michael Cross’ Your Marriage Savior course was written in a workshop style type of training. I can say that he is more of a “Coach” (just like the people above) instead of just a “Teacher” or “Instructor” that will bore you to death with their academic theories.
As I’m reading each “manual” (not chapters) and listening to each of the audio trainings, I get so pumped-up (excited) on all the knowledge or “technology” I’m getting… that I don’t realize that I’ve already finished one manual.
- A 125 page first manual
- 62 pages 2nd manual
- Three bonus manuals
- Two Training Audio discs (can be downloaded).
To be honest with you guys, I’ve already read books about ATTRACTION, seduction and being a dominant charming man so most of the information in this course should not be that unfamiliar to me. But in every page, I get that “aha” moment because this time, I’m reading these methods, these principles in the context of marriage… Not in the context of making women attracted to me when I was still single back then. Although the principles are almost the same, Michael have put them in a new light.
So whether you are a self made seducer or pickup artist through other courses, you will still find nuggets of gold in this course in your marriage. Much so if you are totally unaware on the concept of ATTRACTION and female psychology.
I’m a living proof of how effective these principles are. I was a needy person and shy around women before, but because of my desire… No… My BURNING DESIRE to improve myself, I was literally devouring self help books from the classic authors like Napoleon Hill, Dale Carnegie, Steven Covey to the more laser focus “under ground” authors of seduction and attraction. Now I’m married to a gorgeous, smart and strong woman.
The year was 2006, picture taken from my old blog
And now that I’m married I’m taking the proactive approach of making sure that my marriage will be a success. With her personality, an ordinary guy will be DOMINATED. And as Michael’s Your Marriage Savior course teaches… If a man is dominated by his woman, eventually the woman will resent him leading to almost all the marital problems we have today.
So what exactly is “Your Marriage Savior” of Michael Cross has to offer that other marriage self help system don’t have?
Simply it is YOUR marriage savior written BY a man FOR men like us.
Unlike other systems that were created by women, YMS was written by a man who knows women’s psychology. The problem with books written by women, they won’t be able to solve the ROOT CAUSE of marital problems because partly they themselves contributes to the root cause of the problem. So instead of directly addressing the root cause, they go around the superficial stuff by advising the couples to “communicate” better or to be open with one another. Imagine that there is a fire in the house and you go around adding more fuel to it! I find a lot of such advise in Yahoo Answer. Check them out and see how I give advise based on what I have learned from Your Marriage Savior in this link.
You remember “Men Are From Mars and Women Are From Venus” (written by a man). If you have read this famous book, you will agree that women are inclined to get into “deep communication” to when they have problems. Talking about it even without solving it gives them relief. So a woman marriage counselor will naturally advise to have those deep communication but are really counterproductive in the first place.
Even if a marriage counselor is a man, most are trained (or brainwashed) by psycho drama. Just ask yourself, will this guy be able to attract women other than his wife? If not, find someone who does know how to attract women!
Once you achieve this, you basically took a shortcut in saving your marriage. Believe me, after reading other relationship/marriage self help books… I can honestly say, I KNOW what I’m talking here.
Note: shortcuts are not always bad. Remember, elevators were invented. But if you want the long road, take the stairs to the 1000th floor! ‘Coz that is where an ideal marriage is.
As I was reading two marriage self help book from two totally different school of thoughts I can now see how making your wife stay attracted to you should be prioritized over knowing “academic” psychological marriage principles. Don’t get me wrong, these academic principles are also being taught by Lee in “Save The Marriage” course and most of them are good. But as I’ve mentioned they are “nice to have” and are more geared towards both the husband and the wife. But with Michael’s Your Marriage Savior, it is DESIGNED specifically for husbands. With laser focus precision.
Ok, so instead me babbling about how good this course is, I’ll show you what you will learn by me showing you my advice on people’s real marriage questions in Yahoo Q&A. I’ll copy and paste here my answers from “Yahoo Answers”. Yes, for the past few days I was sharing what I have learned from this course. I feel like I have the obligation… you saw the movie Hitch? Something like that.
Now don’t go on thinking that I am totally biased for this book because I have one negative review point as well. As you may have noticed by now if you have been reading my previous articles in this website, I’m a Christian. I based my belief on Christ’s laws. So if I see principles being taught by marriage gurus that are against Christ teachings I say it bluntly. Just like what I did on Lee Baucom’s teaching of married couples being equal. I totally disagree with him because the husband should be the head of his wife. That a “controlled-controlling” relationship is NOT a marital trap, contrary to what Lee might believe. You can check my review on this link (will open in a new window).
This is where I totally agree with Michael Cross’ Your Marriage Savior course, wherein he teaches the value of being the Alpha Man (dominant man) in marriage.
So before going to the Questions And Answers (Q&A) I mentioned, let’s talk about my negative review point of Your Marriage Savior.
YMS teaches the principle of “Abundance” although it was not specifically termed like that. Michael is trying to remove the reader’s limiting belief of “Scarcity” (i.e. your wife is irreplaceable). Michael teaches that in order to save your marriage, you need to be willing to DESTROY it by believing that you can easily replace your wife. This will create an aura of “abundance” in you that your wife can easily pickup (sense) through which she will know that she have to “work” to keep you… to chase you. Thus, resulting to ATTRACTION.
I can understand the principle behind that and I agree to remove that limiting belief of scarcity that only leads to being needy (a real deal breaker). But the method or the exercise that you have to do in order for you to cement that abundance belief in your subconscious is not appealing for a Christian like me. Since I can’t divulge what that exact exercise is, I suggest for those who are Christian readers to REPLACE that exercise.
Replace that exercise with the belief that if your wife does not follow Biblical standards and violates Biblical boundaries of a Christian husband and wife, then that’s the time you CAN PUT HER AWAY because even the Bible allows separation on the following grounds (note: these are extreme cases and after really trying to make your marriage work). These should be engraved in your subconscious so that she (or “he” as applicable) will know and feel that you have these boundaries:
- If she leaves you because of her unbelief (like she doesn’t want you to be her head/leader). Let her be.
But if the unbelieving depart, let him depart. A brother or a sister is not under bondage in such cases… 1 Corinthians 7:15
- If she is always nagging you, argues with you and just full of hatred. Just leave her.
It is better to dwell in the wilderness, than with a contentious and an angry woman. Proverbs 21:19
- If she cheats on you! Then she is REPLACEABLE.
And I say unto you, Whosoever shall put away his wife, EXCEPT it be for fornication, and shall marry another, committeth adultery: and whoso marrieth her which is put away doth commit adultery. Matthew 19:9
You can check the details of this in my answer to a Yahoo question here.
First of all I apologize for any grammatical error or spelling on these Q&A as I was just typing my answers at the top of my head. But I’ve made some corrections here so you may find differences from my original Yahoo answers.
Also my answers are based on my overall background as a person, but mostly these examples are based on what I have learned from “Your Marriage Savior”
Click the question’s image to go directly to the original Yahoo Q&A
Since the person asking here mentioned the Bible and Evolution (micro). I’ve customized my answer here with a combination of Biblical truth and what I’ve learned in Your Marriage Savior of Michael Cross.